There are certain factors that cause conflict in a marital relationship. Usually, it can be due to stress, financial issues, interference by in-laws, misunderstanding, etc. It so happens both the partners may be undergoing the same situation which worsens the entire relationship. Let us focus on how to balance such a situation.
Insight oriented
- Am I getting angry with everybody or only with my partner?
- Am I misinterpreting the situation everywhere or only with my partner?
- Do I get this feeling now or for the past few years?
- What are the factors which trigger my anger/anxiety?
- Is it because of comparing my life with others?
- Is it due to my high expectation from my partner?
- Do I meet my partner’s expectations?
- Is the conflict due to neglecting my partner’s feelings?
Such a question will provoke our thought to peep into our self. Once we note down or try to answer such a question we immediately think of “What I need to do”?
Action Oriented
- Understanding the reason behind the emotion -angry/sad/
- Exaggerating or ignoring the situation hurts your partner. Learning to respond or react in the appropriate way helps to balance the situation.
- Understanding the feeling of “Self” as well as the partner gives clarity to the situation.
- Listing out the expectations from each other in a marital life reduces misunderstanding.
- Living a life of assumption widens the gap. Analyze whether it is a fact or assumption.
- Discussing with your partner about her/his feeling without arguing shows a concern rather than blaming or defending.
- Analyze whether the work is too stressful which causes negative emotions.
It doesn’t matter what people think of you. It’s what you think of yourself that really counts“